Alfie Kohn Notes:

Love your kids for no damn reason-A parent’s love is unconditional
Talk less, ask more
What do you want them thinking about, the book or the reading?
Interest or stuff to get better at?
Effort or ability, why put in the effort?
You make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions.
Constructing knowledge-Learning at its best.
When to make it difficult?
You don’t have to light the fire. Help make sure it doesn’t go out.
What kind of motivation not how much.

On reading:

Reading by reading
Maximize choices-whatever they want.
Their interests
Read to them “a few pages.”
Many interests develop later